NSA dating = no strings attached dating. That’s pretty much as simple as it gets really. You have sex with someone, and then that’s it. Well, until you see them again for sex, of course. You don’t need to date them, you don’t need to move in together, there’s no pressure to have babies and get married and find a big house to live in, in the country with three horses, a dog, a cat, a hamster and a goldfish. It’s easy. It’s breezy. It’s literally no strings attached!

NSA Dating… Why?!

I’m a big fan of the NSA dating because it offers me so many MORE things than a relationship can offer me. Firstly, I don’t need the things in a relationship that a man can give me because I am already in one. The only time I need the NSA men that I date is in the bedroom… My husband doesn’t screw me like these other guys do. I don’t need to worry about seeing them again either so I can do pretty much what the hell I like. If I fancy a bit of anal fun, I don’t need to worry about my husband thinking I’m a dirty harlot. You can replace harlot with whatever word you like, I’m sure you get my drift.

There are some things you can’t do with your “regular” partner or husband. There are things you might be too embarrassed to admit to liking, or things he’s made very clear he doesn’t like. Relationships are meant to be based on compromise but sadly, this is rarely the case.

There are a whole bunch of reasons as to why the popularity of NSA dating has grown. Revenge sex is a clear winner here, with so many people opting of a night of no strings attached sex in a bid to get their back on a partner that has done them wrong. Revenge sex is always the best sex. It’s nasty sex! 😉

Men often turn to no strings attached dating to get something they might not get at home with their wives. After the kids come along, sex is one of the first things that normally goes down the pan and you know… he has needs and urges. Just because she’s not desiring it, doesn’t mean that he isn’t. It doesn’t mean he loves her any less… It just means that he’s not getting everything he needs at home. If she NEVER finds out, who is it hurting?

Once you’ve been with a partner for a while, things can fizzle out. You might lose the sex, you could lose the romance; you could lose everything that once sparkled about your relationship. This is a classic example of trying to rekindle the butterflies you first felt when you meet someone – the first flush of romance where your heart flips when you touch him in a saucy manner, or your breathing becomes shallow as he flirts his lips along your neckline. You won’t get that same feeling once you’ve been with someone for a little while, and it’s a sensation that many people crave. NSA dating gives you the opportunity to experience those butterflies over and over again… with new partners every time, or just when you have lost the spark.

Some people indulge in a little NSA dating whilst they already have a loving partner at home because they don’t feel wanted or desired by their full-time lovers. A lack of sex, romance, money, too much fighting, kids getting in the bed at night, worries at work… All of these things can lead to the decline of a sex life within a relationship. A little no strings attached sex fun on the side isn’t everyone’s cup of tea but for some, it just works. If you’ve read my other articles, NSA dating is remarkably popular in one of my most favourite countries in the world – South Africa. For such a relatively small country, there are lost of web sites in this sectors with thousands of members! Check it out!