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Who Else Wants To Learn About Adult Dating
You’ve made the decision to try your hand at adult dating. You want a bit of fun. You don’t want to be tied down. You might have a partner at home. You might be single with no time to embark on an emotional relationship. You might be a fan of multiple partners just because of the thrill it gives you. Whatever the reason, you’re here looking at adult dating because you want to give it a try, right? If this is your first time, you are in for an exciting ride!
There are so many adult dating websites out there, either for extra marital affairs or no strings attached dating. It can be hard to know which one to go for, or what approach to put to work first. This is your first time, and it can all seem overwhelming.
When it comes to finding the right website for you, it pays to shop around, so to speak. Look for one that works in your favour. For example, if you are a guy looking for a hot girl, you don’t really want an adult dating website with 60% or more males, do you? That’s basically a sausage fest right there. How can you expect to pull a hot chick when you are fighting off a bunch of other guys at the same time?
The same thing applies to the ladies out there – if you are looking for a hot guy, don’t go for a website that is predominantly female based. There are some great websites out there, and it can often make sense to sign up with more than one. For example, there’s nothing wrong with making use of the free female membership with one site, and then paying for a subscription elsewhere. You might as well make use of the freebie!
(Guys, this means that more girls will sign up to it so you might as well give it a bash too! It’s like free female entry nights in clubs – there’s always LOADS of girls there!)
Another thing you’re going to want to look for when you sign up is how many people are coming up in your area. What’s the point in joining an adult dating site with the closest member is one hundred miles away? You won’t be bothered to travel all that way all the time, so it’s only going to be a one night thing, if it ends up being a thing at all? Use the search function – that’s what it’s there for.
Generic dating websites are not going to help you here. There is normally a NSA button that you can check when you sign up to them but you will more than likely find that the people on these sites are looking for something a bit more than a casual fling. A bit of advice for you – don’t waste your time with them. Go straight for the NSA and adult dating ones and you will have much better luck!
What Exactly Are Friends With Benefits
You must have heard of the term “friends with benefits” by now. We live in the 21st century… Surely we’re all aware of this by now?
The term friends with benefits is something that refers to two friends who are NOT dating, or are not romantically attached in any way, but have sex regularly, or every now and again. Friends… with benefits. The name kinda gives it away, don’t you think?
Mila Kunia and Justin Timberlake made a film about it. Two people, not emotionally involved, sleeping together when it suited them. Of course, in the film, Mila and Justin’s characters fall in love and probably have that happy-ever-after thing that so many girls lust after. It’s not always like this though. Sometimes the encounter just sort of fizzles out…
Take my friend Amalie. She’s a 20-something year old girl that doesn’t particularly want to settle down. She got married when she was 18 and was divorced by the time she was 24. She’d done the settling down thing, she wasn’t looking to start popping out kids at any point soon, and she really enjoyed travelling the world. She did travel the world, one boyfriend at a time, but she realised that every breakup tore her to little shreds.
Taking back all of her “girl power”, she decided to make a change. She didn’t want companionship because she had a male best friend that fulfilled the “boyfriend” role (although they never had sex), and a couple of really close girlfriends that she loved hanging out with as often as she could. She had a part time job and also freelance web-designed on the side, and to be honest, she never really had time for a relationship.
Instead of the relationship, she opted for causal sex with a guy that she had known for about ten years. They had never dated. They were never romantically attached. They were just two people that happened to have known each other for a really long time, and once day decided to have a few drinks and jump in bed together. The result was simply mind-boggling. She had the best sex of her life, climaxing more times than she ever thought possible, and he revelled in the happiness that a great night with a hot woman brings.
It was an explosive reunion, but one that neither of them wanted to recreate outside of the bedroom. To this day, they sleep together roughly once every 12-14 months (when they see each other) and although they rarely talk in between these times, they simply pick up where they left off every time. It’s quite cute to see them really. Cute and weird.
It works for them, and it works for so many other people too. Relationships don’t always fit in with our 21st century lifestyles and with jobs, travelling, going to music gigs, drinking in bars with friends, going pole dancing in a bid to keep fit, shopping for new shoes and trying to maintain a healthy family life, there really isn’t a lot of time left over for a man.
Does it really mean that the average hard working woman should give up sex as well as the relationship? Amalie didn’t think so and to be honest, we envy the way she lives her life. She has a couple of guys that she “circles” around every once in a while, plus the male best friend to do all the things that boyfriends are meant to do minus the sex, and she is the happiest we’ve ever seen her.
So I guess that’s what “friends with benefits” means…there are plenty of casual friendship web sites that cater to this type of niche dating as well! Check them out.
The Truth About Casual Sex Dating
Casual sex dating might sound seedy and uninviting but in this day and age where both men AND women have many more choices open to them, it makes sense to wait until you are sure you’ve met the “right” person before you settle down, get married, have babies and live the fairytale dream that, apparently, everyone is looking for.
The thing is not everyone is looking for that fairytale dream ending. We have busy schedules now, and money is tight with the recession. Who wants to waste both time and money on awkward first dates and uncomfortable second dates, when you can enjoy a bit of casual sex with someone you have a laugh with, and don’t need to worry about the pressure of commitment or monotony… Sorry, monogamy!;)
Many women are afraid to try casual dating for fear of being called all manner of bad names. Most women that casually date choose to keep things on the “down-low” and to be honest, this isn’t a bad tactic. The last thing you’ll want is a name for yourself. No one likes to date the girl with the reputation!
Of course, on the other end of the spectrum, you can’t be too “frigid” about things otherwise you won’t get anywhere in life! If you see a hot guy in the supermarket and he’s not rocking a wedding ring, what’s to stop you sliding over and striking up a conversation? You won’t get anywhere if you don’t try, and you’ll kick yourself for not saying hi! Ask for his number… Most men will be quite surprised by how forward you’ve been, but at the same time, ask any guy and they’ll tell you it’s quite hot to be approached by a chick for a change!
If you’re not having fun with a potential suitor, make sure you cut all ties before it goes too far. We’ve all dated THAT guy that wouldn’t leave you alone after you apparently broke his heart. If it’s not working, or you sense he’s more into things than you are, don’t brush it under the carpet. It won’t get any better. In fact, he’ll just get worse. Before you know it, he’ll be singing you love songs through your bedroom window in the middle of the night. Honestly, “the obsessee” is not a guy you want to lead on…
That’s the other thing you’ll need to learn about casual sex relationships… If you’re going to explore your sexuality and have fun, STOP PICKING THE SAME GUYS! Why not think outside the box and opt for guys you wouldn’t normally date. After all, you have no intentions of dating them out of the bedroom anyway…. You’ll be surprised at how many men and women have casual sex relationships with people they’d normally try and date anyway. What’s the point in that?!
The good thing about casual sex is the fact that you can experiment a little. You don’t need to impress these partners quite so much as you have no intentions of staying with them for the long term. Why not have fun with your sexuality and think outside of the box? Have the sexual experiences you never had the balls to have. What’s the worst that could happen…? You’ll never see them again? No one said it was serious anyway! 😉 There are loads of online web sites that cater for those who are just looking for sex or casual relationships – all over the world, including one of my favourites countries for nsa dating – South Africa. Go there are see for yourself!
Finding The Right Niche Adult Dating Site
In the internet age that we have found ourselves in, we are faced with more and more choices, especially when it comes to things like dating. The internet has opened a wealth of opportunities in so many areas, but with dating, it’s become very handy. You are able to meet thousands of people at the touch of a button, and you will come across people that you might not otherwise have come across. Internet dating is no longer seen as “dirty” or “seedy” as it was a few years ago, and in turn, it means that sex can be found just as easily as a relationship. With one in four relationships now starting in one online format or another, it makes sense that sexual encounters would follow suit.
Finding the right site to use can be as simple as using Google to perform a little search. When you open the browser and type in “google.com” however, what are you going to write? Are you looking for an “extramarital affair” with someone that can be as discreet as you need them to be? Are you looking for something to satisfy your needs this evening as you have nothing to do? Are you looking for someone to finally fulfil that ultimate desire you have been burning to tell someone about? You need to know what you’re looking for before you go looking for it. That’s just common sense really!
There are a lot of different niche adult dating websites, to deal with the above situations we’ve mentioned and more. That’s the trick about having success with them – you need to find the right one for you. There are websites like Adult Dating Network and which are designed to help those married or with partners looking for a bit of extra fun. There are websites like Granny Dating Club designed for younger guys looking for older women and vice versa. There are no-strings-attached websites for those looking for someone just to fill a space for a short time in the bedroom. Which one is applicable to you? What is it that you are looking for?
Once you’ve found the perfect niche adult dating site for you, you need to create a sparkling profile that will attract interest from those that you want to take to bed. You need to be funny, to the point, and honest. A good profile pic will help matters too! (Of course!)
Of course, you will need to make sure that you are being safe on the website you are using. There are some “extra-marital” websites that are private investigators trying to catch you out. The last thing you want is your partner finding out about your business, so make sure that you read reviews of the websites you are using, and only use one that you are sure is what it says on the tin. There are a lot of scams out there, and a lot of websites that are made up of fluff and fake profiles. Make sure you are using a good one, not only to protect yourself, but also to protect those that you are trying to avoid hurting.
Best Hook Up Sites To Get A Shag
Right, let’s get down to business. You’re not busy tonight and you want something, or someone, to occupy your time. You don’t have time to fluff about and try to hook up with silly girls in packed nightclubs. Who has time for that these days? Surely we’re all too busy and grown up to do that kind of rubbish now?
There’s some good news and some bad news here. The good news is that you can meet someone to a great night right now. The bad news is that you’re going to need to sign up to an internet dating service to get it. There are some GREAT hook up sites out there to use to get laid tonight… Have you got a few moments to spare to fill out some personal details? 😉
These sites are perfect for people that don’t want to mess around. These sites are perfect for people that know what they want, and don’t want to have to wait to get it. He says yes, she says yes… What are they waiting for?
There are a couple of sites out there to hook up with hot dates and get a shag tonight. It’s not all seedy one night stands and seedy men looking to finally score. Some of these sites are classy and sophisticated… You just need to know where to find them!
One of the best sites that you’ll come across when looking for tonight’s hook up is Women Looking For Sex. It’s not seedy in the slightest, but this doesn’t mean that you won’t get lucky. A few questions is all it takes before you’re signed up and ready to play, and when you consider that it’s free for women to join, both guys and gals have a great time. The freebie offer entices in the women, which means more of them for the guys to choose from. And girls, why wouldn’t you appreciate a freebie registration to a site that is pretty much guaranteed to get you lucky tonight? If you are looking for more cuddly women, then we can heartily recommend Hot BBW Dating.
There are a number of other websites that you can take a look at… NoStringsAttached.com is under £20 a month, and with roughly two women to one man, everyone’s a winner… You basically have a 50/50 chance whether you’re a dude or a chick!
Of course, there are a few others that we can add to the list too. xmatch.com is one that seems to come pretty highly rated by anyone that uses it, and there’s also EroticAffairs.com and AffairsClub.com. It would appear that this “hobby” is more prolific than you thought, huh?
However my best recommendation goes to Looking For Sex EU does exactly what it says on the label! Lots of hot European totty looking for shags….you need to see this site to believe it. The women are sexsational!
Now, before we let you run riot on the casual dating scene, we feel that there are a couple of things that you should probably know. First of all, be very wary of other websites than those we have mentioned. There are a lot of weird “Private Investigator” type websites on there that will just lead to you getting caught; something you won’t want if you are married or in a relationship.
If it seems that you are being asked for more details than necessary, such as a specific address or a telephone number, you probably should quit filling in your details. Also, if the people you are sexing up never seem to want to meet, or want to talk to you on the phone, there is a good chance that they are leading you on or hiding something. In short, if you’re uncomfortable giving someone those details, step away from the computer and just go with one of the sites we have mentioned. Honestly… is it worth getting caught out?
5 Winning Strategies To Spice Up Your Adult Personals Ad
Right guys and girls, we know you aren’t playing around. You’re looking for someone fun and good-looking to play with tonight, but are sick of the weirdos you always attract from the adult personals. It’s time to start looking at spicing things up so that you can find the perfect partner for you… at least for one night only!
Your personals ad is going to be the main thing that attracts those people you are attracting, and it’s time to look at changing it to make it work better for you. If you’ve never created a personal ad before you in your life, or need a hand filling out that online dating profile “About Me” box that you dread so much, you’ve definitely come to the right place!
5 – Be yourself
If you’re five foot three, a tad overweight, and about as greasy as a plate of freshly-fried chips, whats the point in making yourself out to be a lean, tall, beauty with Australian-style bleach blonde waves, and a figure that anyone in Hollywood would be envious of. You’re planning on meeting up with these people for sex… Are you seriously considering the idea of luring them in under false pretences, and hoping they give in and have sex with you anyway, just because they travelled to see you? Life doesn’t work that way…
You need to be honest about the way you look, the things you like, and the kind of person you are. You wouldn’t lure someone into your bed to screw under the pretence of marrying them and having their babies, so why would you lure someone into a bar only for them to find out that you are a troll and not the beaut they were expecting. Don’t be stupid – you won’t get laid. They will more than likely call the cops on you for being a complete nutjob.
4 – Get to the point
“Hi, my name is Michelle and I work in the fashion industry. I love cats, new shoes, pink leather couches, horse shoes, butterflies… blah, blah, blah.” Do you know when most men would have given up on you? After the fashion industry bit. You need to put some thought into what you are writing here. These people aren’t interested in what you do for a living, or what you do in your spare time. They are looking for someone to meet up and have sex with. You must have know this already, you are filling out a personal ad after all. Get to the point – the stuff you know they will be interested in. Like the fact that you’re a size ten with a 32dd chest, for example. That’s the important stuff.
3 – I’m looking for…
If you don’t put what you’re looking for, how is that supposed to come your way? What are you looking for? Do you know what you’re looking for? Are you looking for a bit of no-strings fun, or a night of unbridled passion with a man whose name you do not know? Are you looking for someone to finally fulfil that fantasy where you’re naked and tied to the bed, and your partner does whatever the hell they want with you? They can’t find you if you can’t be found… You should probably be clear about what you want from the meeting.
2 – I’m XX years old
It’s not a nice thing to say but you might as well come out and say it because pretty soon you are going to meet someone form that site and they are going to know anyway. Be honest about your age right from the beginning. Some guys are looking for an older woman. Some men are looking for a 20-something year old “twinkie”. Get to the point – we need to know your age.
1 – GSOH
OK, so you’ve said you’ve got a GSOH or good sense of humour, and you are looking for someone with the same. Does your personal ad really say that you have a good sense of humour? Are you actually funny in any of it? If you’re funny, be funny. Don’t be a middle aged, stuck up loser in your ad if you’re the frivolous and carefree joker in real life. What’s the point? Try to show a bit of personality in your ad, whether its with a sense of humour, or a real bit of flirty banter. You’ve said it so you might as well show it! And as they say, if you’ve got it, flaunt it! 😉